So... The man with the intrusive question from this post returned for an IM conversation the other day. And I will say...it wasn't going horribly. Until this happened.
Talking about how he was at a local bar for New Year's Eve...
redflag: but was only for a short period of time, before the colored folks showed up
redflag: oh cmon
redflag: not that i am racist or anything
me: "colored" is not an okay term to use unless you're talking about pre-integration periods in the south.
redflag: it's not a term i use often
redflag: was something that just came to mind
me: yeah, well, just so you know, it might lead people to believe you're ignorant.
I don't buy that it "just came to mind." Not for a second. But whatever. I had nothing else to do. So I kept talking to him.
Now we were discussing his late night trip to Denny's the night before.
redflag: it's always a great time
redflag: especially when the food is on the house
redflag: unbenounced to them
me: you...did a dine and ditch?
redflag: i did
redflag: well, my group did
Mind you, he's 26 years old.
me: that's really not cool.
redflag: i was with 4 other friends and the generally consensus was to dine and ditch
redflag: obviously i am not going to get on my moral high horse and say "hey guys cmon, thats not cool"
me: why not?
redflag: for one thing i was an bit too innebriated, and secondly they would of done it reguardless and i would of been the jackass to take care of the bill
me: I'd rather pay the whole bill if it meant I'd find out what kind of "friends" I had.
redflag: hey what can i say, when my friends and I are drunk...we get a little crazy
That's right... "My friends and I." They were all drunk. And got in a car to go to Denny's. Awesome.
We argued for a while about ethics, and his basic response was, "I'm not proud of it, but it's funny." You just took money out of someone's pocket, and you could have killed someone driving drunk. Oh yeah...LOL. I was done with that.
He returned late last night with this nugget.
redflag: i think you might find it interesting to know that denny's called the cops and they reviewed survellance tapes and one of my friends cars got ID'd and they called him at 5am and told him if he does not pay the bill they will arrest him, so he went down and payed the bill
Now that? That's funny.
Of course I got lectured for being judgmental, and he defended his behavior as "living on the edge" and told me I should "try it sometime."
redflag: well, yah know...if you feel like this situation is enough to deem me as someone who is unworthy of your time then so be it
redflag: but perhaps it would behoove you to forgo some of you qualms about people and there behavior cause you might find that with a few exceptions there might be a great person behind the bullshit they do
(insert eyeroll here)
You do stupid teenage shit like get wasted and drive, then run out on a bill in your late twenties, and use an archaic, ignorant term for another race. But I'm in the wrong? Of course I am. Because I'm turning you down.
Grown-ups and non-hypocrites: Endangered species.